Those Things We Do For Love

Last Sunday saw me coming back from L Fest - a place full of lesbians, adventures, laughter and trouble (that was more of a personal thing than a general theme). I was happy but tired and maybe I couldn't control the train of my thoughts. Anyhow, three things popped into my head at the same time:

* I'm not really seeing many women recently since I got myself into a deep shit trouble last winter (see, here it is again!)... Maybe I should start dating more, after all I love meeting people and it always makes for a good story.

* Oh dear, I'm so glad that I live in times current. If I lived in old ages my sister would be dead! (She has a medical condition that needed XX century to be semi-tamed). Oh dear, maybe my whole family would be dead.

* Ha ha, I shouldn't probably say out loud how I came to a conclusion that if I was black (and had one of those full of meaning names like some Africans do) my name would be Charity.

And BANG. This was born in the depths of my beautiful mind - I shall go on a date with any girl that is going to support my chosen charity which supports people like my sister and tries to find a cure for their condition.
It's a three-way win-win-win situation. It's perfect!

Truth be told I have no idea how successful this endeavour might be and I can't predict whether anyone will be even remotely interested in participating in an adventure like that. But the thought was there and therefore I must give it a go. Nothing to loose, everything to win. Let's be amazing!

You can read my sister's story HERE (this is my lovely sister and I on a photo above)
And you can see my dating profile HERE (my photos are not XXX rated, you have to believe me)

Living The Dream - Intro

For a while now I was braving myself to start writing about one thing that appears to be a reoccurring motive in my life, thing that I believe to be the ultimate goal of human existence, thing that humanity searches for with a varying rate of success, a thing that many want and a few have. Please let me introduce you to Happiness.

Working definition: happiness is a positive state of inner peace and fulfillment.
I'm going to tell you that happiness is, like Lego, built of various components and hence it can be achieved and modeled by working on it's smaller parts. With a little bit of training, time and dedication anyone can find their way to happiness. It is not a chance and not luck and not outer causes that make happiness in us. It is due to our doing in the world and our interactions with it.

Most of the issues that I am going to mention have a rational and scientific background (do your own research if you wish). Some of them are universals, some are more culture dependent (I write all of this from a white, European perspective). Some might be completely wrong. All I have is my 33 year old wisdom, a sense of observation, a handbag of life experience and some psychology background. But I know that there is a pattern, that there is an easier way than blind walk, that many people strive for fulfillment and that some people are unhappy. I can only hope that someone will find this useful or even vaguely interesting. See what works for you, give it a go. And if nothing more, this is my challenge that I take upon myself to make my life more worthwhile, richer and happier than it was ever before.

As my ex-friend said once: Everyone has right to be happy.